A Question About Keni Day! I Made It

A question about Keni Day!

frankieanne 10 years ago

Gourmetana asked a question in the A Keni Cooking Day and I responded. I'll cut and paste here because I am looking for input.

gourmetana 1 hour ago said:
Frankieanne, can you explain better how this is going to work dear? We cook one or more recipes from Keni's amazing collection and then we share the photos here. Is that it?

I responded:
Well, you know, little Ana, that is a very good question! I didn't expect such a huge response. And I'm really pleased, of course! Its wonderful to see new faces in IMI! If I count right - we have 24 people participating! And I can't remember if I counted myself. hehe Maybe I should ask for input. I don't like really long threads so if we have only one thread - well, it could get long. And, if members posted their own individual thread, they could add their pictures to their thread.
I think I'll start a thread and see what everyone wants to do.
Thanks, Ana! :-)

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So, what do y'all think? Do you each want to post your own thread so you can add pictures? Or just one thread?

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NPMarie 10 years ago said:

I think that's a great idea, we post our own separate thread, and, like you said, we can add our picture for each recipe made:)

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christinem 10 years ago said:

I was originally thinking one thread, but I think one for each would be better - we could post our pictures, then it's easier to keep track of comments about that recipe (like in this group!)

Honestly, I'm happy with either way, but *maybe* leaning towards the multiple threads ;)

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frankieanne 10 years ago said:

Thank you, ladies. :)
Yeah, I'm thinking the multiple threads are a better idea. That way pictures can be posted - and Keni loved those pictures! And you're right about the comments, too, Christine. So - I'm voting multiple, too. :-)

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pointsevenout 10 years ago said:

Multiple threads would make Lovebreezy happy. It's harder for her to disposition a long thread with multiple links. Waiting to hear from her.
If we go the way of the long string, I was planning to be the one to start the string so MY pic would get posted. LOL

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frankieanne 10 years ago said:

hehe That's too funny, pso. You have time zone advantage as well. :-)

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NPMarie 10 years ago said:

OK, you are saying multiple threads..do you mean each person starts a new thread for each recipe? That's what I meant to say in my previous post..multiple threads right? I just said it wrong I guess..duh :-D

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chuckieb 10 years ago said:

I'm on the multiple thread side. :) That way we get to see pictures of all the dishes and it'll be fun to see so many of Keni's recipes being featured.

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Good4U 10 years ago said:

I think the multiple threads would work out better for a few reasons. They would be easier to read and understand and find when you want to refer back to them and the the pics help as well:)

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mommyluvs2cook 10 years ago said:

I like the multiple threads idea too. So would it be a thread per person or if someone made more than one, a thread per recipe?

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frankieanne 10 years ago said:

Yes, I am thinking a thread per recipe so a picture can be added. Then, too, the comments made would be about that particular recipe.
Back when this first started, I thought maybe eight people would join in. I never expected so many! That makes me really happy. :-)

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windy1950 10 years ago said:

I think that's what a wake is all about... joyful celebration.

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frankieanne 10 years ago said:

You are right, Windy. And there's usually lots of food, so we've got that covered as well. :-)

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windy1950 10 years ago said:

After my hub died back in '05, both sides of the family went over to his brother's house for a cookout, volleyball and reminiscing. It was a beautiful July day, and the event provided such a huge amount of relief and relaxation for me. We cried and we laughed... it was really wonderful.

Does anyone know how to contact Keni's family? Perhaps someone could offer them an invitation to join us and/or AR for the event.

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frankieanne 10 years ago said:

I believe Pkusmc (Patrick) knows her family. He knows about the event but I don't know if has mentioned to them or not.

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mommyluvs2cook 10 years ago said:

I asked him if he knew their address and he does not. I have her cell phone number but I have not called it yet since she passed..

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bakerme 10 years ago said:

If more than one person makes the same recipe, maybe they could post to the thread started by the first baker. Then all the reviews and pics for each specific recipe would be in one place.

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frankieanne 10 years ago said:

Good idea, Bakerme! I like that one!

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pkusmc 10 years ago said:

Her family knows....they said they aren't happy about it, but it's not about them, it's about all of your memories of Keni. ML2C, her phone is shut off.

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mommyluvs2cook 10 years ago said:

I agree Patrick...

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lovebreezy 10 years ago said:

After reading this thread, I changed my mind of what I first stated in the other thread.
I agree that each recipe should have their own thread. To allow for pictures and (thanks PEO) for the ease of logging IMI threads.
I'm sorry Keni's family is not happy with us. Wish we could do something for them.

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gourmetana 10 years ago said:

Frankieanne, thanks for this ;)
I also agree one thread per recipe is the best way to go.
I am really sorry Keni's family is not happy about this idea... But Pkusmc is right. This is about our memories of Keni and about honoring her and her love for cooking.

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frankieanne 10 years ago said:

I'm sorry that her family is not happy either. I suppose they feel its a privacy issue or something like that. But, we aren't discussing anything private. We are discussing her food and the love of food that she had and that we shared with her. Keni Cooking Day is filled with respect and honor. I hope they can see it that way someday.

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NPMarie 10 years ago said:

Well said Frankieanne...well said.

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mommyluvs2cook 10 years ago said:

Very well said Frankie...I hope they can see it that way as well eventually.

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Vivica 10 years ago said:

I am going out on a limb here but we aren't her family. As much as we'd like to think we are, we aren't. Perhaps we should tone it down a bit and honour and remember her in our own way privately. If her family isn't happy about this, then in my opinion someone closer to Keni could call and ask how we can honour her without any hard feelings. After all, they are her family. Please don't be angry with me. I am only voicing my opinion and will do whatever the crowd suggests. My condolences to the family, and to the people who knew her. I hope you take my words in the spirit they are given.

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duboo 10 years ago said:

Vivica, there should be no reason for anyone to be angry with you. You are following the spirit of the family and I guess it will be up to everyone individually how they want to do this. It's not easy to understand sometimes, how people mourn, and it's not our place to question that. I am going to continue to make Keni's recipes when I can, but I also plan on toning it down a little because that's what she'd like.

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frankieanne 10 years ago said:

Hi, Vivica. No one is going to get mad at you. You are entitled to your opinion.
I am positive that Keni's family is hurting and I think we all do respect that. I don't know if you are familiar with what the members of IMI do, so if you are, please excuse me. We make other GR members' recipes, take a picture of our results, post it and our comments to the recipe and then put the recipe and the picture in a thread in IMI. Then we link the thread back to the recipe. What we are doing in honor of Keni isn't anything different that we do here on a daily basis! All we were going to do was do one day of her recipes alone. No - I didn't expect the huge response that has occurred. I thought the IMI'ers here at GR would be the only ones that would join in. But, then others came over from AR and we gladly welcome the members of AR. So - yes - I suppose it could be perceived that it needs to be "toned down" but there is no disrespect meant. We aren't doing anything "wrong" or disrespectful.
That being said - I will try to find out more about their objections and why they are not happy.

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pkusmc 10 years ago said:

Honor Kennedy the way you're doing it. It's respect, and not intrusive upon her privacy. Kennedy would not be angry. Embarrassed, but prolly (her word, not mine) be smiling, and be really, really happy. Enjoy her food. It's why she posted all of it. Her family wasn't pleased, but didn't ask to stop, either. If anything, she'd be pissed that there aren't more pics!

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pkusmc 10 years ago said:

...and Vivica, your heart is in the right place. You said the right things. I've been communicating with her brother. It's gonna be okay to cook her food. They really don't like the memorial that her page has become. Maybe, to honor that request, comment on her recipes so that it looks like it used to...a whole bunch of people commenting on her food. Wash away those memorials and RIP's, etc. That would probably make them, and her, happy.

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frankieanne 10 years ago said:

Thank you, Pkusmc. I really appreciate it. I don't want anyone to be uncomfortable with what we are doing here.

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mommyluvs2cook 10 years ago said:

I see this as no harm. I don't see any reason to completely ignore and forget about Keni which is what it's sounding like. Is everyone expected not to put their feelings down on her page? They will only be there for a month or two and then will disappear and be replaced with recipe reviews. It's an extremely normal thing to be sad about something like this. I'm not quite getting this whole situation anymore and thought this was something she would have liked. I would like it if Frankie just erased this post now so that we can get on with what we were doing....Plus what we are doing is a celebration for her...not mourning.

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pkusmc 10 years ago said:

It is a celebration, absolutely. Like I said, she'd be embarrassed, or humbled, but very happy to see this type of response. She's got a LOT of good food listed here....keep cooking for Keni!

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Vivica 10 years ago said:

You people are great. Thank you for the kind words I appreciate the understanding.

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NPMarie 10 years ago said:

Hi Vivica, yes, there are some pretty great people here:)
Michelle, I was thinking the same as you, we are honoring Keni & paying our respects by what we say on her page and by making her recipes...and yes, this is a celebration for Keni...

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frankieanne 10 years ago said:

Thanks, Vivica. We like to think we're pretty cool around here. :-)
I'm not a member of AR so I don't know what it is like there, but one of the great things about this site is that the owner has given members tools to combat "mean people" and "trolls." Moderators of groups can ban members from groups and each member can ban other members from viewing their profile page and recipes, thus they are not able to leave comments and comments can be flagged. So, bad behavior isn't tolerated here at GR. It makes for a friendly place. That's why you see quite a few of us here often. We hope you'll join us regularly now that you know what we are about and what we do here in IMI! :-)
So - Keni's day will be on February 15. One thread per recipe but if you see that someone beat you to the recipe you made, please add on to their thread to avoid duplicate threads. Pictures, pictures! - but, of course, if you are having technical difficulties or ran out of batteries or your grandkid is away for the day :-D, they aren't necessary. But, we do love pictures as did Keni! No formalities. First person here that day - start posting!
Thanks, everyone. All kind words here to everyone and from everyone are appreciated. You guys and gals are a class act.

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Vivica 10 years ago said:

Thank you for the warm and informative welcome Frankieanne. I love AR and have gotten to know quite a few people there who are here as well. I would love to join in your discussions. I have in the past checked out a few of the great recipes here and I thank you. I will be making a couple of Keni's recipes on February 15. Thank you for the invite. She was always helpful to me and very friendly. She will be missed.

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lovebreezy 10 years ago said:

Just to add 2ȼ in.
One thing Keni worked for at one time was to expose AR people to GR. She may have had several reasons (and even got some flack for doing it at times) but I know one reason was the lack of trolls or hostility here and that their recipes could be published and shared immediately not having to wait years as at AR. She never said to quit AR but to use the best of both sites. I do believe she would have been happy to see so many ARers stopping in (and hopefully staying) here at Group Recipes.

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Semigourmet 10 years ago said:

I am very new to GR, and only since we lost keni. That being said. I have to agree with where this discussion is headed. enough of the memorial. Time to move on and honor her more quietly, the 15th of Feb. If anyone wants to cook a recipe of keni's then do so please in honor of her. But to keep a long ongoing memorial just hurts too much. I will be cooking a dish of Keni't not sure which one yet, LOL! I am kind of looking forward to that day as a quite personal honoring in the way of food, for a very special person to us, her family and our site.

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Vivica 10 years ago said:

I agree with Semigourmet. I think it's best to keep it low key. We can all honour her in our own way. I would like to make a dish or perhaps two of Keni's. I miss her already. So February 15 will be set aside as a special day for me. I will be thinking of her as I prepare her specialities and hope I can do them justice.

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